Confusion and Affection

     Thank you for your kind email, but I have a very little time to reply to emails from people these days, and I am less motivated as well, and so in most cases I don't. Since I have some time on my hands I will do so today, but very brief as possible. It is very easy to ask question, while the answers in most cases require much more words/work than simple questions, especially those concerned with horses.

      I will address the word confused in relevance to horses, which you should have been able to answer just by looking up the word in the dictionary, and so I will extract the relevant. As you will see a horse does not have to have the ability to think to feel confused, as confusion can be purely instinctive in people and horses alike. Instinctive confusion in people is present there where we do things instinctively and often mess things up, which often happens during so-called multitasking.

    Relevant extractions - definitions of the word confused.

   1. Perplexed by many conflicting situations.
   This above is relevant mainly to handling horses, especially in riding of which most amateurs are guilty off since they are not aware of what is going on. For example some folks when asking the horse to gallop will often take the reins back and tighten them. In other words they ask the horse to move forward and then they preventing him to do so, hence confusion on the part of the horse (has no clue what to do, or what is going on).

   2. Lacking orderly continuity.
This above is relevant to what I call predictability. In other words a horse finds itself secure in predictable environments or actions, and anything that interrupts it and puts the horse to unpredictable situation or place will confuse the horse, in which case fear sets in and the animal simply wants to get out of this predicament.

   3. Mistake one thing for another.
This needs no comment.

   4. Unable to act intelligently
In short, not knowing what to do/how to respond.

    I have said that the animal learning is based on associations and is purely instinctive; hence confusion arises not because they think but rather because the things or actions that they associated with one thing/action or another do not match to what they have "learned". Remember that the nature is consistent, but people are not, and so it is the people that bring onto the horse confusion, and not the nature. In short we get confused and in this way we confuse the horse, because we simply have no clue what is going on. Horse will also associate one thing/action with not only one thing/action, but with few, and the other way around, which can also bring confusion as the mind can get overloaded, which often happens to incompetent trainers, which in return produces often nervous/stressed horses.

    In most cases when horses fear it is because they are confused, though the science uses the term fearing the unknown. In short when a horse finds itself in a familiar situation it responds according to his gained or inborn instincts, but if the animal finds itself in a situation where he has no instincts to respond with, the fear sets itself instantly, which is purely natural, and the animal will try to get out of the place/situation as soon as possible.

    As you can see from the above there are not only various forms of confusions, but many, many reasons that we for most part are not aware of. You could say that we confuse ourselves, as well as the horse, because we think and the animal does not, but still get confused by us, because we think to which the horse cannot relate because the animal does not think but rather processes the environment.
   And so since we think we often fail to process the environment, and to the horse we are simply ignorant, since are responses "lack orderly continuity of responsiveness" to the horse and the environment alike. In short we are for most part absent minded when it comes to responding to the horse and the environment, which of course confuses the horse.

    As far as the yawning goes, especially the chewing and licking, it has to do more with nervousness of the horse, than with some affection. Do not mistake horses for dogs. Horses do not lick for affection, but mostly to appease the person lest he hurts them. Horse actually bite or nip as affection, hence the term "horse play", and so we should not play with horses as we do with dogs. It could also be physical, and so I would have a dentist to look at the horse's mouth or talk to the vet, though there is a little hope in the latter these days.
   Horses do not display affection by toughing as we do, but rather a horse that feels "affection" to (better said feels content with) the man will put his head near him and is quiet and still, which displays contentment. If they do display "affection" by action it would be by gentle (to the horse) biting or nipping, usually on the neck near the withers.

    How to deal with a female horse and the hormonal changes is the same as how to deal with one's wife, and who has instructions for that. I surely don't as all are individuals and one has to find his way how to deal with it. In short the answers how to deal with the hormonal behavior of a mare or a woman are in the mare or in the woman, hence pay attention and listen, and what to do should come to you from the mare, or the woman.
   I usually say about mares that they are very willing to do what you want, but they want to do it their way and not your way. Ask your wife, I am sure she will not dispute it, as it is not what you are asking for, but rather how you are asking. If you ask a woman that you need something, in most cases women will do it, but do not tell them how to do it, because you will run into a wall of oppositions, and that does not differ much in dealing with mares.
   One of the worst attitudes to have with a mare is "the boss" attitude. The mares, like women, do not like to be bossed around, but rather do much better if interested in what they are doing, while being left alone and free to do it. With male horses it is much different and has to do more with respect for one another.

    As much as I have said that one learns from horses, I have also said that one has to learn from horsemen what not to do, and it seems that you lack much in the latter, and so you will be making many mistakes, and your progress will be very slow, since you will be relying on reading books and such.

    As far as the registering goes, as you call it, if and when a horse is focused on something that the animal fears or is disturbed by it, the animal will miss most of the things in the environment. Hence the more distracted the horse is, whether by the rider/handler or the environments, the more spooky, nervous/insecure and unpredictable the horse becomes.
   If and when the horse is fortunate to have a rider or a handler that is well aware of everything around and responds rationally, the horse will have the tendency to adhere to/rely on such person, if for nothing else but security, especially if the person is faster and with sharper awareness than the horse.
   In short if a person knows what he is doing, the horse will become well aware of it and will rely on such person, as opposed to a person that is clueless, which the horse finds for most part unpredictable, unreliable and often fairly annoying. Ironically we expect from horses what we ourselves would not expect from ourselves, relying on a clueless and scared person/animal.
   You could say, in horses and people alike, that the confused mind is a chaotic mind full of fear and insecurities, hence often nervous and unpredictable character. Now you know why such minds in people look for drugs, to subside the turbulent chaos in the minds of the ignorant and stupid.

    Horses do not have personality because they are not beings, but rather we refer to the animal's character and spirit, intelligence, heart, as well as mind, that latter however different from humans, but never the less a mind/processing center if you will. What the animal feels, what the animal is aware of and all the inborn and gained instincts are processed in the mind of the horse which result in responses, which are lightning fast because the animal's mind is not burdened with thinking as is ours, hence we are for most part absentminded when it comes to natural life.
   The horse is absent minded in the world of human beings, and so we do not rely on the horse to solve our social problems, do we? On the same note horses are very much apprehensive to rely on human beings in the natural world, obviously for the same reasons.

     The horse is the best teacher about the nature a man could have, but since most people are too ignorant of the horse and humanize the animal, they learn nothing about the animal's nature, let alone about their own nature. And so it is no surprise that most men today forgot their own nature and became like women, all ruled and affected by emotions rather than reason. If and when we do things because they feel good to us, we are always unreasonable, and as it is, we are so with horses these days, as most men lost their nature and became effeminized, which makes them much easier to control and rule. A reasonable man cannot be manipulated by emotions, but emotional man can.

    Please do not take this personally, but I understand and can relate why women seek, and are fond of, animal's and human affections, but for a man it is downright shameful that he should be so weak to be ruled by such emotions, especially when it comes to animals.

    Here is something from the divine wisdom. Love is not an emotions, that is passion, love is not something you say, do or express via some silly affection, that too is only temporary and flighty feeling of passion that leaves the same way and as suddenly as it came, however love is something that you become, it is the state of higher being and has nothing to do with feelings or emotions, but rather with courage, loyalty and endurance.


Ps: The reason is the masculine element of the human psyche and emotions (passions) are the feminine element of the same, in men and women alike. Which one would you, or do you, subject to the other? As it is, in this modern day men became like women, and the people of the world subject their reason to emotions (envy, passions, hate, desire, greed, fear etc.), and the world is simply going mad, which needless to say is self-evident in everything we do. The term "social justice" is not about any justice at all, but rather is stimulated in people purely by envy, the original sin, as well as greed and fear. Don't think, but listen, observe and you'll become aware not only what is happening in your environment but also in the whole world.


Written by Ludvik K Stanek a.k.a Lee Stanek